I met a girl through the net, and now we have met in real life and we love each other and wish to go further in the relationship. Because I can’t afford to get married, I have proposed the idea of temporary marriage. (Mut’a). I’m 18 and, she is also 18, and a virgin. The kind of Mut’a I wish to do is the non-sexual type, just so we can get to know each other without any haram caused. Her parents don’t know of it yet, and she does not wish to approach them about it. She usually takes care of herself, money wise, and is mostly independent. Can we do Mut’a without her parents’ permission?
To perform Mut’a with a virgin girl you must seek the permission of the girl’s father or guardian – as this is a prerequisite – even if you do not intend to engage in sex. If the father of the girl is dead, then you must seek the permission of the girl’s grandfather, or brother. You must refrain from performing Mut’a with a virgin girl without the permission of the girl’s father/guardian.